7 Tips for the YELLING Mom.
The other day I was skimming through the gallery on my phone and came across a video my son had recorded. He is two, so I knew this must have been by accident. The recording didn’t visually show anything except the couch. However, it did have audio of me yelling at my kids that made me rethink a ton of my parenting skills.
Questioning my parenting
Why would I question my parenting skills? This is because it happen to be filming while I was yelling at my son to do a small chore. Yes, Given I did tell him many times to do this chore which was to simply bring me a diaper so I could change his little sisters bum. My son is three. And I was yelling at him so harshly to go get the diaper. To a three year old…
Listening to this recording made me a little teary eyed. How could I be such a mean mother? And to someone so small? I have lost patience which resulted in yelling at my kids all to often. I hated to come across this on my phone but am so glad that I did. It has given me an outside perspective on how I really treat and mother my kids. Something as small as hearing this has taught me so much.
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7 Tips for the yelling mom
I don’t want to be the mom to always loose her temper. I want to learn patience with my kids and learn how to teach them to obey and be helpful without feeling the need to raise my voice. I know I haven’t been the only mom to have a problem like this. So here are some methods I have been trying so that never come across a recording like this again.
1- Take a deep breath.
Yes, this may seem like a given. But I find that when I am feeling the need to raise my voice I need to take a minute and breath. This helps me evaluate how I really want to deal with the problem and calms me before dealing with my kids.
2- Try to think about why my child is acting out in this way.
I recently had a baby and had lost my temper more then usual. But if I just realized that my son simply needed a snuggle and to know he was loved would have saved a lot of tears, from both of us.
3- Try and think on why I feel like I need to yell.
This one has been more difficult for me. It is hard for me to want to think why I might be the one at fault. But when I do I usually come to the conclusion that I don’t need to yell at all and the problem can always be settled in some other way.
4- Speak Softly.
Duh. I know this is the whole point of this post. Ha. But speaking softly gets through to the child when you look at them and tell them nicely what needs to be done. They somehow hear it so much better then when it comes across loud and harsh.
5- Discuss it with your partner.
I found that when I told my husband the problems I was having with the kids he was more then willing to jump in and help. He was able to talk with my son and help him realize we needed him to try harder to be helpful. And in doing this it helped me not to yell because my hubby had taken the reins on this one so there was no need to.
6- Hug it out.
Hugging my kids is a favorite for me. When I am angry and want to yell or loose my temper hugging is the solution! It calms me and my children down in a matter of moments. And can only help in a bad situation.
7- Realize they are kids.
I often think my kids are somehow abnormal. Because they are always making a mess, peeing their pants, or doing something destructive. I need to realize that they aren’t abnormal but they are kids, kids who need an outlet. And keeping them from never touching anything or experiencing anything isn’t going to help. They are going to find an outlet somewhere. So try and let them be kids.
It can be hard not to yell. I know this. Although I still tend to give in to this weakness I want to try daily to be a better mom, and putting these small methods to use has helped so much so far. So if you are struggling with this as well try giving these tips a try, they may help you as well. Stop and think before the action. And good luck mommy:)
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