5 Tricks on dealing with an emotional child
I have some of the most emotional children, ask anyone who knows them. And I admit, sometimes I feel like I cannot take it anymore. The crying needs to stop. Even with them crying so much I have learned a ton along the way. It has come to my attention that it isn’t them who needs to change, it is me. I need to change my opinion and actions on how I deal with my emotional child.
Try this other post of mine on how you can be less stressed as a mom.
What is an emotional child?
First of all, I need to make it clear that throwing a temper tantrum is not the ’emotional’ thing I am talking about. I Am talking about my kids crying for no good reason. Or needing me to hold them on my lap when there is a whole couch available, and when I feel I need the space I now have to deal with a toddler meltdown…a long one.
In my opinion, an emotional child is a kid who has a hard time expressing themselves in other ways besides crying.
Crazy thing. My kids are all under the age of 4 I have a 3 year old, and 2 year old, a 1 year old, and a soon to be newborn. Some will feel they need to cast judgment but I am learning to deal with that too. I always have known I would have tons of kids. It is a dream of mine and it is being fulfilled. This being said, I basically have three babies and I (along with others) tend to forget that they are all still so little and crying is still a huge way that they communicate.
Coping with a crier.
For example. I am trying to realize that my two year old need a lot more physical contact than my other two. He is almost always asking to snuggle and be write up to my torso, If I feel like I need to roll over and have him at my back it isn’t enough. In his little mind he needs me not to turn my back but give him full attention. When he isn’t getting this he will cry, and cry, and cry!
I always get so frustrated! And always lose my temper towards him. Hence, leading to regret and so on. (you moms know what I am referring too.)
S0 the last few days I have gathered my thought on what tips I felt I could give you to cope with an emotional child, and these are my unexpected results. Realizing them has made me learn from my mistakes and try to be a better parent.
1- Realize that they are still little.
They are still trying to learn the best way to communicate and need me to be patient and work with them. Realize they are still toddlers and will grow out of most of it.
2- Work on the way I take in their emotions.
I tend to allow myself to get frustrated. It would be easier on myself and them if I learn to take a moment and try to understand why they are behaving that way. I need to change the way I am dealing with them not the way they are dealing with communicating with me. So try not to change my kid. -Check-
3- Realize the difference of a tantrum and crying.
I feel like I am learning this everyday. I need to define the line between them needing emotional support from their mommy, or them throwing a tantrum because they don’t want to mind or don’t get what they want.
4- Find time to cuddle.
As time goes by I am finding myself not wanting to give them the time they need to spend time with mom. I have too much to do. I don;t think I am the only mother who feels this way. But I feel like for me it is a huge mistake. I need to put down what I am doing weather it be blogging, or a phone call, or laundry, and give them the time they are searching for. When I have given them this small amount of time I do see less crying. It is nice.
5- Less electronics.
I know, weird right? But I have discovered if I turn the tv off for onger periods of time the emotions run a lot less strong. It helps them use that built up energy in the back yard or pretending to cook me food. It makes like a happier life instead of a more stressful one.
These are things I have discovered. Now the hard part of putting them all into my daily routine. It is the action of the matter that is the tough part. I know I can do it. And it will make me a better person and parent.
What are some ways you work with your emotional child?
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