Five manner goals for your five year old.
There are manners I think everybody should have in order to be a civilized adult. When should these manners be taught? Two? Eight? Thirteen? Well I also think there is a good age to teach certain manners. For example, you can’t expect a two year old to open the door for every lady he sees, but you can expect it from a ten or even a five year old if it was taught to him.
I have a list of five manners I want my kids to learn before the age of five. I don’t have a five year old. But I know if I start teaching my kids to be kind and civilized now, -fingers crossed- it will pan out, so here goes.
Five Manners For Your Five Year Old.
1- To Say Please and Thank You-
These are the words every child by the age of five should know well, and know when to use them. When my little ones expect to have something, like a toy or food. I try to make an effort to have them say please before they receive it, and thank you after its placed in their hands. These words will help them learn to be kind when they want something out of life.
- Before my kids get to watch a movie I have been trying to have them say please and then after its on say thank you. It is so sweet hearing these little voices say those words.
2- To help when they can-
My kids don’t always help when there is work to be done. I see them sit and let myself or others do so many things that they can do themselves. I know they can lighten a load for somebody else. Yes my oldest is only three, and you may be thinking, ” gosh woman, let him be a kid,” I agree. A child shouldn’t be loaded with tons of chores. But even kids should have a certain amount of responsibility.
My three year old son is now getting into the habit that after dinner is chore time. His little chore is to pick up the shoes and put them on the shelf. Simple. No he doesn’t put them into the right order yet, but we will get to that as time goes by. In this small way he has already lightened the load for someone else. Now that someone doesn’t need to worry about getting the shoes picked up.
- I have already started my two year old on the small chore of putting his clean underwear away. It has been awesome.
3- To be a lady or a gentleman-
This one takes some time of learning. By the age of five I hope my kids will have learned a few skills ( if not all) of how to be a lady or a gentleman. I hope my son will be eager to open the door for me. Not because I can’t do it myself, or that I am teaching him that ladies are feeble and weak, But rather that he can show a lady that he can take care and protect her if she will let him.
I hope by this age both my boys will gladly open the door for any lady like his father does. As for my daughters. I hope they learn to be the kind of gal to let a man open her door. I hope she will sit with her legs crossed, use good language, and offer her guests a chance to stay for dinner. These may seem dated to some, but they are the base to being a lady or a gentleman.
- Because my arms are usually full with a baby or groceries, I will ask my little boys to run ahead and open the door for mom. They find this so fun to do and it is starting to get to a point they do it on there own.
4- Table manners-
Yes ma’am! I love when there is a child who has been invited to eat dinner with us and they say please and thank you, ask to pass the peas ( or other items,) ask to be excused, clear their dishes. All of these things is something I would be so proud of seeing if my kiddos learned to apply these to their dinner time rituals. My two year old isn’t always going to remember to ask his daddy if he can be excused but I like the idea that I can start teaching him.
- I haven’t worked on this as much as I should but if I ask them to my kids are starting to put there dishes by the sink. I am sure you could start with any one of these table manners though.
5- To not talk back, or complain-
I am so impressed with my husband, he never seems to complain when he is asked to do anything! And even better, he always is happy to do it. I hope to learn to be more like him when I am asked to fulfill a responsibility. Even more so I would love for my children to learn this from their father. So when they are asked to do something they will say “sure, I would love too.” Instead of ” why?” or ” Can’t so and so do it?” This would be great! It would teach them that if they just get in and do it, it will get done.
- One of the ways I am trying to do to help them learn not to complain or talk back is to say OK mom after I have asked them to do something, I try to say it in a lighthearted fun way to help them enjoy it a little more.
I may be putting the bar a bit high to have all of these manners learned by just five years old. But I also know that if I start to teach my children day by day little by little how to learn good manners, they will become civil adults who others will love being around.
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